This is an article I wrote for MindBodyGreen about a small shift in thinking that can go a long way in terms of helping you accomplish your goals. I hope you enjoy it…
Have you ever set a goal for yourself, then been utterly frustrated that you seemed unable to put forth the necessary effort to get what you wanted? Do any of these sound familiar to you?
- “I just can’t make myself go to the gym.”
- “I can’t control my emotions. I always blow up and then regret it later.”
- “I really want to get started on my business idea, but I just can’t find the time.”
In most cases like this, the word can’t is inaccurate. It suggests that you have a complete and utter inability to engage in the act in question — as if there is some invisible external force preventing you from doing what it is you said you want to do.
Saying can’t takes away your power, and in some ways provides an excuse for not moving forward toward your goals or fulfilling your commitments.
So, how can you shift your mindset to sidestep this problem? Replace can’t with won’t.